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Should I Play Or Should I No?

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Posted by: Eddie2sox Wednesday 26th December 2007, 11:35pm
Last edited 26/12/2007 11:35pm by Eddie2sox

So. Booty texts, and the consequences.

You’ll recall I was chuffed that I avoided temptation - for once - the other day. Now I am finding out more about that particular situation, and wondering which way I ought to proceed in.

The facts. Text message said “What you doing tomorrow? Want to come over?” or something very similar. I declined (first time I have, and pleased with meself). Surely not a problem considering that we’re FBs? Well today more texts. “S*x mad, want hot **** ****, ******* ******, and **** *** ******”.

Later on “So if I had a partner would you still be my FB?”

Me: “I don’t think that would be right unless he/she agreed!” (Interesting possibilities).

Her: “Not sure we should carry on then.”

Well, this is a little confusing. I am surprised I feel so ambiguous about intruding on someone else’s relationship. I am thinking:

1. So what. I have had two marriages ruined because the woman couldn’t resist temptation, and there were men willing to jump into bed with them. Now it is the other way round, so why should I have any qualms about potentially intruding on another bloke’s territory? Well, because it will inevitably lead to bad stuff for the woman and man. I have a conscience (DAMMIT!) and it feels wrong.

2. The sex is great. No limits, spread over hours. Imaginative, rude as ya like, great.

3. Poor bloke. Feels wrong that the girl in question has to find satisfaction with me and not her “partner”. It hurt me when it was the other way round. But is that MY problem in this situation? Probably not. Maybe she should sort it out - sensitively - with him, so she can find what she needs at home, and not away.

4. The girl's head might be getting messed up if she’s seeing more than one man. On the other hand she might just enjoy sex. Who doesn’t? But if she’s a fragile individual, does my involvement make things worse for her, in the long term?

I tend to side on the idea that it’s wrong to get involved with someone who is with someone else. But then, it’s been done to me more than once, so what the ****? What a kerfuffle!

Update Next Morning

Having slept on this situation, I've made a decision. But not before more texts:

"I have met someone."

"XXX does not have that raw edge like we had."

And a few more besides. My decision? Steer WELL clear. I want my personal karma score to rise not fall, and just because people have behaved badly towards me in the past doesn't mean that I have to keep the pattern going. No, this is over! Pleased with my decision! I'll text her to let her know - but later on - wouldn't want her to have to explain a mysterious message if they're still in bed!

Update Later

I decided to stop this so the new bloke hasn't got any kind of nasty competition. Here's what happened:

Me: Hi. We should deffo not keep in contact. Not fair on your new man. I think we agree?

Her : Thats up 2 u we havent done anything wrong only txt

Me: I wouldn't be happy if I found out my gf was getting dirty texts from an ex, so I think it's best and fairest.

Her: Yes but then i was never good enough to be ur gf

Me: I don't undrerstand that. You have a new bf, look after him, hope you're both really happy.

Her: I am happy just saying u never wanted me as a gf u built me up in the beginning to being ur gf then dumped me was i not good enough

Me: I'm not getting into "what ifs". This is my last text on the subject.

Her: Yes and mine

Phew!

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