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Wednesday 18th March - Son getting ready to leave home

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Posted by: knightrider45 Wednesday 19th March 2008, 5:37pm
Last edited 19/03/2008 5:37pm by knightrider45

The day had to come, didn't it? The day I've been secretly dreading for the last 18 years or so since I first got him when he was just 10 years old.

We've had our ups and downs, me and B., and after the big re-adjustment period I guess every step family has to go through, and the adoption & name changing, we became the best of friends.

In the past, we've done everything together and became really close, from working together on the cars through to me and him, alone, working the markets and car boots in the Midlands. Both of which we did in all weathers, with B. taking a good share of the market takings, because he was always hungry.

But now, those days have gone. The angelic looking, but actually acting the opposite, little boy is now a man. Over I guess the last 5 years or so he has started to go his own separate way, and is now out most of the time anyway.

But the bond between us is still there, it's just not that apparent any more. And now I have to do the parent thing and let him go. Underneath all the bravado I feel that, rather than this being his own conscious decision, he is the butt of taunts at work and in the pub because he's still at home at 28.

But, I feel his genuine excitement for his new adventure with him, and for him.

The house was strangely quiet after the girls went, but the father-son bond didn't exist then. It does now. I think I'm going to have a much harder time with my son leaving than I did with the girls.

I have accepted the fact that the best days of my life - when I was a "proper" parent to "proper" kids - not the growed up sort they've obviously turned into - will never come back again.

But, God, I wish they would. Every single second of them.

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